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Key to My Style

Key to improving my life – books that make a difference

Hi there,

How are you?

Today I want to share with you few books that I strongly recommend in terms of law of attraction or even (if you are not aware of LOA or don’t really believe it) just in terms of life improvement in general.

I ordered them all on Amazon (it is not a featured post, I was not asked to do it, this is my personal opinion… and just to be clear, I only feature products and services on my blog that I like or love and if I don’t I am always honest about how I feel about them and what they do/don’t).

The first one I want to mention is ‘THE UNIVERSE HAS YOUR BACK’ by Gabrielle Bernstein.

I love Gabby for many reasons. I first discovered her on YouTube when I was looking for help with healing after my miscarriages. She helped me in understanding signs from the Universe and in improving my meditation. You can find a lot from Gabby for online and for free but I must say this book has an awesome, structured, practical guide on self development. The order of the chapters makes sense (whereas online we often go from one thing to another, which can be confusing or even slightly destructive at times). This book helps me meditate (or pray, whatever word you prefer). It helps in understanding how we are all connected to source energy.

The biggest getaway from it though, in my case was, is how to work though fear and all the negative emotion with finding love in every situation. Gabby helps me confronting emotions rather that trying to hide from them. This book is staying by my side for whenever I need a little assistance. I also love how honest she is with sharing her personal struggles and how she overcomes them.

The second book is actually a journal, that I ordered along the first book, and I am very glad I did. I feel that they really complimented each other (also an awesome gift idea I think).

‘FIVE MINUTES IN THE MORNING ( a focus journal ).

I wanted something in addition to my gratitude journal (where I write daily what I am grateful for). I wanted something to help me explore myself and ask myself questions that I may not think of otherwise. It is amazing. I thought it will be with me for a year but I got sucked in and within few months (2-3) I have filled up 95% of the pages. But that is not important. What I love about it is that I can go back to them too and revise or look back and see how I change (and hopefully grow).

Just to give you an idea, some of the questions/suggestions are:

  • What matters to me most? (what are my values)
  • What do I desire?
  • What are my fears?
  • Take notice (stop and notice details – mindfulness)
  • I feel most energised when…
  • What went well yesterday?

… and many more. I am generally in love with journaling and keeping notes and diaries. I love looking back, keeping memories but most of all I love being fueled by gratitude. This journal helps with that too.

The third book I want to mention is ‘YOU ARE A BADASS, stop doubting your greatness and stat living an awesome life’ by Jen Sincero

Let me be honest, the title got me. Of course I want to feel like a badass more of the time and anything that claims to help, I will try. I know in my gut that part of me acknowledges my inner badass but the other one is still pretty doubtful so here I went for the book.

I must say it didn’t disappoint. I love the way Jen shares her story and how it inspires me to take action. Cause let’s face it, action is what keeps the world going and what makes our manifestation process 10 times faster. I love how she talked about the relationship we have with money (she used a letter addressed to money as an example) in a way that really hit me. It isn’t just money we can relate it too but I am sure most of us felt once or twice in our life like we didn’t have enough of it… . Well, Jen to the rescue. It’s all about the mind (again, LOA). She also talks about fear and how that blocks our manifestation process. She is super entertaining and encouraging. I laughed and smiled with this book a lot and I got the kick in the butt to move… Thank Jen!

 

The last book I want to include in this post is ‘SHE MEANS BUSINESS’ by Carrie Green

This is when I felt like I needed to get more practical help in terms of my blogging life and feeling entrepreneurial. Carrie shares her online business story in a way that a lot of us women or a lot of us bloggers or just many of us self-employed people can relate to. She provides us with many tools that we can adapt (or find out about) and she makes herself available. She is very hands on with her business (Female Entropreneur Assosiation). I posted couple of times of my Instagram page while reading this book that I enjoyed it and she actually reached out (send a little message). How’s that for setting an example? She is a hugely inspiring businesswomen with armed open to help. She means business with this book and everything she does in a humble and sweet way. She is definitely someone to watch and follow. What I loved about the book most? Probably the honesty and practicality of the advice she shared.

As I mentioned at the beginning, I was all about law of attraction and my huge goals and dreams when reaching out for all of those but your reasons may be anything from self love, self development, feeling stuck, wanting change in life, looking for something to do or even looking for company, feeling angry, not wanting to feel trapped any more and many more…. They cater for all that in my opinion.

All the above books compliment each other and I am super grateful for my new additions. I will keep you posted when I finish the new ones.

Let me know if you read any of those or if you’d like me to elaborate. Also if you have any books on LOA and self development, please share.

Have a super day.

Thanks so mych for stopping by.

I love you,

Gosia

Key to My Style

Key to my happiness

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There is no key…. there isn’t. The key is me. I lost the awareness of it for a while. First time, when I finally had a life that I love. When my marriage was finally on the track that I envisioned, meaning kids. I got so happy that I remember telling my husband that I am so content that even if we stay in the flat that we are in at the moment for many more years, I am happy and will be. I couldn’t wait to see his smile and approval. I did not see it though. Instead I saw disappointment. ‘Are you kidding me’ He said…. It took me a while to understand that it does not mean that he isn’t as happy as I am, and it does not mean that he is embarrassed to live where we do. It simply means that he wants better for us and our family. So I got so confused with the whole happiness and for a while I stayed that way.

I recently suffered another miscarriage. I lost a boy that is, second boy to be exact. When we lost Zac (first miscarriage) I was fully and utterly devoted to sadness and ‘blameness’, so much so that I opened myself to hearing it and accepting it from others. So much so that all I was telling myself was that ‘I lost a baby’, ‘I am not pregnant’, ‘Everyone else is pregnant or getting pregnant’ , ‘Everyone else has two or more children and they are not even trying’.

The game of comparison is our unique and tailor made hell. There is no escape. The is no help. No matter how hard we try we loose. I was loosing.  Don’t take me wrong when that happened, Ben our first born was just over one year old and not only he kept me alive, he healed me daily too and I was also happy.

But I know now, and I finally feel it and get it, after loosing Gabriel (our second loss), that I cannot rely on my children, number of years between them, their health or their moods to make me happy. I cannot control any of that fully and it is simply not fair to depend on my children to make mama happy. That’s bullshit! I need to keep ‘my cup full’ and overflowing to share the happiness and make the best use of my talents and blessings to keep my family well.

There is one thing I always used to say as a little girl. I’d say ‘I am always happy, I just have bad days sometimes’. I don’t think I fully understood it then but I felt it and isn’t that the key? Feeling the life as opposed to overthinking it? It surely doesn’t serve me well when I do that. When I do that, I let fear decide and I focus on obstacles instead of being driven to grow.

So today, my message to self is, feel it girl, whatever you trying to think and overthink, drop it, step outside, dream it and dance your life like no one is watching. I have tangibly felt how fragile life is. It didn’t happen when I was ready and nothing else will. I can live a life that I desire today and today I do.

No matter what people tell me, I smile, I put make up on, I dress up, I have fun, I cry, I sing, I share my story and I heal. I don’t care about what is appropriate and what ‘should’ be done now. I am HAPPY and I always will.

Here is to crazy happy today.

I wish all of you bad days, good days, crazy days, fun filled ones and happy life.

Here are few of my very good days ;))

 

 

 

 

Love,

Gosia